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How I've Mastered The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck.

This is the story of a girl whom I know from college. After hearing it, I felt an utter need to share her story with the world.

"Have you ever felt like crying for a reason while you are crying already for a different reason?"

"Do you know what to call those people who do not practice what they preach?"

"Ever experienced the rage you feel when your most trusted person couldn't do it for you but can do it for some other person ?"

Friends are the only family we can choose, so choose carefully.


ONE LONG YEAR BACK
"This looks great," I thought while consuming the urban scenery from the balcony. This is one of the biggest decisions I made in my life, to move out of the college hostel where all the things are taken care of by the authorities and share this flat with the closest of my friends, managing all things on our own. I'm a butterfly bursting out of the cocoon. The flat felt like a second home.

All the insecurities with the independence, restrictions with freedom, a content smile with deeper doubts, I stood there welcoming everything the world has hidden for me. For a 19 year girl,1400 km away from home, in a place where people doubted whether I am from their own country or not, I made myself a clean slate ready to be drawn on by teachers (in my case friends) and accepted whatever they wrote for more than two years.

' Like a biscuit to a cup of tea, sauce to french fries,' he crept into my life and added extra colors, flavors to my life and swept me off my feet. He wanted me to enter his world where a person will be as straight as an arrow, as brave as a warrior, hard as a rock at the same time, as sensitive as the rose petal.



'If you are uncomfortable with the way your friends behave, it's totally fine, but if you feel more uncomfortable to reveal it to them, you need to recheck the bond with your friends. '

'One can never be happy if their basic values, ethics are wrong' - Mark Manson

Sure, the transition and the relation were the toughest and longest journey which consumed all my time and left me with no time to spend with my friends. Maybe this was my first mistake.

Initially, you guys used to leave me alone in the room and go out, but why is it a mistake when I did the same. This question still kills a part of me.
When I disclosed the relationship to my friends, I've received thorns instead of petals. The tug of war between my old, wrong teachers, and my new, semi-right teacher felt like standing in a place where you get hit by a tsunami as a result of a strong earthquake. It went on, and some situations occurred where they were logically right, but they forgot that all these relations are more emotional than logical.

I blamed myself for all the bad that was happening until the day where karma started hitting them and revealed their true colors. Whenever the situation flips, and they got into my shoe, they behaved selfishly by dumping their own preaching.

To that friend who complained the most about not spending much time with them, now quotes that 'Friends do not have to spend all the time together. The bond stays there,' OH REALLY?..!! You should've realized it before torturing me on the same point, and by the way, thanks for labeling as a Thief. You spoke ill of my boyfriend in front of me, spoke ill of me in front of my boyfriend, but still, we were nice to you until the moment when I revealed that I was treated improperly by one of your friends and you doubted me whether I'm telling the truth or not. 

Did you really think that a girl would just blabber about being treated improperly? What are you?

To that friend whom I speak highly of, at any point in my life, choosing sides because you wanted something from the other person and leaving me behind, even though I was right because you had nothing to do with me, depicts your selfishness. And the way you lied to my face about the privacy settings of your posts made you a liar in my mind.

This is my story, the way I treated people like a family, even though they made me cry with their actions and the way they treated me when I behaved in the same way they behaved.

' Change is hard in the beginning, messy in the process, but heaven when done right .'

In the end, I would like to Thank - 'time,' which threw them in the same situations as I was and revealed their true colors within a short time.

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