That One ETERNAL Problem In Middle Class Youths

"It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting."

Paulo Coelho, Quoted in 'The Alchemist'.

Sure, it does sound fairy and exciting that one has to chase and pursue their dreams and give a meaning to one's life. And in contemporary lives, we also have great examples to support this way of thinking like Zuckerberg and Gates.

It might be your family or your friends (except for Asians)pushing you to chase your dreams, while hell of a lot of movies, books, motivators sometimes even babas force the Asian kids to chase their dreams.

Dreams are like medicines which allow you to feel and they actually make you better. But the contrary situation would be taking too many medicines which will destroy the basic senses. So one must be aware and know when to stop. I may not be a qualified doctor in this topic but I want to be your local drug store pharmacist in this situation and help you in deciding when to stop.

Just because you are passionate about something, it doesn't mean you will get better at it. Just because you like doing a particular thing doesn't mean that you should avoid doing other better things. If you aren't being any good at what you love to do, knock it off and try loving what you ought to do. Every person has to be hard-nosed for their own good.

To defend my stand, Your Honour (Oh God! I wanted to be your pharmacist but now I'm being an advocate, see I stopped taking my own medicine),

I would like to introduce three of my anonymous witness, who in the beginning were victims of the fairy 'we can chase our dreams'mindset.

First, a pragmatic person who wanted to lead a very normal life as a software engineer. Due to his limited knowledge and resources,yes you guessed it right, he couldn't get a decent job. But to support his family instead of fighting in a battle where he has low odds of winning, he turned into a cab driver as he realized that in his country at that point of time, cab driving was paying him more than the software job.

A new version of this story can be explained by a scenario where the food is being delivered by people using luxurious sports bikes and flagship phones while most of the graduates use budget mobiles and don't even own a bicycle.

Second, a chemistry enthusiast whose dream is to own an individual drug manufacturing factory since childhood. But had to give up on his dream just for the well being of the indigenous people around the only place he could set up his factory. Nevertheless to explain, in his situation giving up on his dream was more satisfactory than to chase it.

Last and the most important case, the one to which most of the people can relate is when your passion and dream job cannot feed and take care of your own family, you ought to relinquish and find something more economically beneficial than emotionally.

This might be the other way around too if your family lacks emotional benefit but gains only financial benefit from your job (that's the same reason why Dominic wanted to leave his passion), that too is a situation to be handled with utmost care.

And above all, some jobs will never be done, if all that people want,is to chase their own dreams. The jobs I'm talking about are the ones, people look like the ones beneath them. One might dream of a clean country. But that dream will be forced upon the sweepers and other workers who might not dream the same thing. Can you imagine the situation where everyone wants to be a cricketer, an actor, an engineer, a doctor, an architect, and an accountant.? Where would the food come from and who will be doing domestic works like cleaning bathrooms,houses,public areas and who will be clearing all the dump on the road.?

If you sit back once and compare how much you've paid for these domestic things in the past and how much you need to pay now, then you might understand what I'm talking about.

Even the demand and supply graph will make you understand clearly that due to fewer people doing these works there has been great increase in their pay and if this situation sustains we can expect to pay more for a session of house cleaning than for a brand new software.

Even suggesting people ' NOT TO CHASE THEIR DREAMS ' is not the idea here but I recommend that you should be utterly stubborn but prudent on your dream and as well as be an open window to consider the alternatives.

For further reading on this topic, click hereMike Rowe's view on Passion and Opportunity